by Ryan Schwantes | Jan 3, 2018 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Because you guys talk about moderating drinking, and moderate drug use, it makes you sound a lot like Harm Reduction. Is it the same thing? No, The Freedom Model is not harm reduction. As a matter of fact, you can see the...
by Ryan Schwantes | Jan 3, 2018 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I know if I look at my drinking and the costs of it, I’ve got a good chance of quitting. But every time I do that, I drink more! Is there a better way to do this? In a word, yes. To see quitting from a cost perspective only...
by Ryan Schwantes | Jan 3, 2018 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions If heroin is the most pleasurable drug, how is my son going to ever be able to stop using it? The Freedom Model spends many pages helping you understand that drugs, even heroin, do not contain addictiveness. This idea is a...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I heard the Freedom Model is taught at The Freedom Model Retreats. I have a quick question – what happens after they go home from the retreats? Won’t they crave more once they are out of the retreat bubble? That is entirely...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions How can you say that addiction is a “construct” when we know that dopamine is affected in the brain? Doesn’t the changes in dopamine and serotonin cause people to keep chasing the high? Dopamine and serotonin levels are...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions The drugs we have today are so much more addictive than they were 20 years ago when we grew up. I think your book avoids this reality, and is irresponsible because of it. Please stop saying people can easily get over an...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Can alcohol, heroin, or other drugs lower inhibitions? No, pharmacologically, substances do not change the content of our mind’s thoughts. The Freedom Model for Addictions does a fantastic job of covering this topic in...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions My wife cheated on me, and said she was in a “blackout” and that she can’t be held responsible for what happens in a blackout. Is this true? A blackout is drinking or drugging to the point of memories not being recorded in...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions My daughter has been to 3 rehabs. I swear that every time she goes, she gets worse, not better. But I do understand that when she gets out she needs to avoid triggers. So what’s going on here, and how can she hide from the...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 24, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions In a word, no. Drugs affect the physical body and physical brain, but they do not change a person’s motivation or the content of their thoughts. This idea that drugs change what you think is a massive myth in our...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I just got my third DUI, and my wife left me and took the kids. Sometimes the only way I feel I can get by, is to drink. I drink wine and sometimes abuse my xanax when things get too stressful– but I’m exhausted. Does the...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions When I drink beer and wine it calms me, but when I drink whiskey or any hard liquor for that matter, I get mean. Does this mean I should always avoid the hard stuff, or will the freedom model show me how to drink responsibly?...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I’ve had trauma and deep depression for years. These bouts create serious drinking and pain pill abuse. Where can I find resources to deal with my depression so I can finally quit drinking and taking pills? This is a common...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Meth has cost me everything. I’m sick of it and need to change but don’t know how to get away from all the chaos. Will the freedom model help me? Yes, absolutely. The process of changing a habit begins in how you see benefits...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I constantly look at the consequences of my heroin habit, and I’m shocked I keep going back to it. Why do I do this? Chapter 16 of The Freedom Model for Addictions addresses this issue in detail. Take a look at this brief...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I keep smoking crack even after losing my kids. When will the consequences be enough? When will I hit bottom and change? No one has to hit bottom. Besides what does “hitting bottom” even mean? The real “bottom” is death, and...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I’ve been shooting heroin for many years and I’ve OD’ed 3 times. The last one, I was revived with Narcan. I know that heroin is the worst drug, the most addictive. So how does the Freedom Model help me stop shooting up? The...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I have tremendous guilt when I get high. I know I should want to stop, but I’m just not sure I can. Why is this such a struggle for me? The Freedom Model for Addictions discusses this topic in great detail and will provide...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I’m really struggling at this stage of my life. I’m recently divorced, have 2 kids I’m raising alone, and I find myself drinking way too much. It’s not uncommon for me to drink a bottle of wine at a sitting. Whenever I feel...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 16, 2017 | Uncategorized
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I need to be in recovery. I know your book says that it isn’t needed, but without being careful I will go back to using. I’ve been sober for 2 yrs, and recovery was my path there. I’m not sure I believe that recovery isn’t...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 8, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions We have a 42 year old son who drinks too much. As his parents, how can we support his recovery and hold him accountable to follow through on his sobriety? There are three facets to this answer. The first is that your son...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 8, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I’ve been looking through your site and I do not see any mention of character defects being the cause of addiction or alcoholism. Do you guys not know that this is a fundamental cause of these problems? I am assuming you are...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 8, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I have been going to AA for nearly 8 years, and I just relapsed again. I’ve tried sober coaches, the 12 Steps, sober living, 3 rehabs. It’s just ridiculous. I’m at the end. What do people like me do? You are not alone. You...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Why do I keep drinking when I might lose everything I have if I continue? While you might have many personal reasons for your drinking, we have been listening to people’s desperate pleas about this confusion for nearly 3...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions How do I quit using heroin and methamphetamine? Chapter 14 of The Freedom Model for Addictions talks about this in a way that people find quite helpful. However, because we do not have the space to place all 400+ pages of...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I don’t believe in the disease theory. It makes no sense. But that doesn’t mean I don’t need recovery. I need the tools to stay sober. But on your site you talk about the recovery trap. What gives? Yes, over the past 3...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions If the addiction disease concept is correct, then I really do not have free will, right? You bring up a fundamental flaw in the disease concept that seems to get easily ignored by those in the recovery society who promote the...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Does a brain get hijacked by being an addict or alcoholic? In a word…NO. Brains change constantly. Any learned behavior or habit will change a brain. This is fact. But a brain that has adapted to drug or alcohol use does not...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions When I go to AA, they keep saying that “once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.” While I do think I am an alcoholic, if I can find a way to stop, am I still one after that? In the passage below taken from The Freedom Model...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I saw your site and your line about the trap caught my eye. I feel trapped. I feel like everyone around me thinks I will never get over this too. How do I escape this nightmare? In simple terms, by thinking differently. Of...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 7, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I saw your website and was a bit shocked. I’ve been in therapy for many years reviewing my past, and looking for the causes of my addiction. I feel like I’ve made some progress, but when I read some of the website, I realized...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions My family is pushing me to go to another rehab. I literally hate the 12 Steps, I hate rehab, and I do not want to go back? How do I get my family to accept me and my want to go somewhere else? Over the past 3 decades, we have...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I have a son in college who has been struggling with what we think is a Xanax addiction. At least that what we think it is. How do we get him into a rehab when he has told us he doesn’t have a problem? Can we force him to go?...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I went to rehab and I feel worse off. Before I went, I did not think my problem with drinking was that bad. But after I got out, I binge worse, and now I feel addicted. What’s going on and how do I get past this? Your issue...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Every day I feel like I’m fighting to survive – to not drink. Is it always going to be this way?? That’s what I keep hearing. It’s really depressing. The answer is no, you won’t always feel this way if you have the...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I looked through your websites and I agree drug addiction and alcoholism is not a disease. But I do think it is a lack of control and strength. I’ve certainly felt weak and made the choice to get high again. So I think you...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I hate getting high. I really do. I don’t know why I do this. I don’t even like it anymore. Why do I keep doing this to myself? Am I one of those hopeless types? No, you’re not hopeless – rather, you are confused. You get...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 6, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Whenever I get stressed out, I smoke crack. Is this a common problem you’ve seen? Does stress cause people to smoke crack? Again, like some of the other answers to questions like yours, the word “cause” is a problem here. No...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 1, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions Does mental illness cause addiction? The answer can be found in Chapter 6 of The Freedom Model for Addictions: “The recovery ideology of “underlying causes” has these people completely confused. According to the Surgeon...
by Ryan Schwantes | Nov 1, 2017 | Q&A
You Asked, We Answered Addiction Questions I had a traumatic youth. It was extremely stressful and chaotic, and drugs became my answer. Today, I still find myself getting high as I try to deal with my traumatic past and lost relationships and my guilt. How do I deal...