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I saw your website and was a bit shocked. I’ve been in therapy for many years reviewing my past, and looking for the causes of my addiction. I feel like I’ve made some progress, but when I read some of the website, I realized that truthfully I’ve been spinning my wheels for years. The cause of my addiction is still unknown – can you help me?
Yes we can help you. Take a moment and read the following quote from The Freedom Model for Addictions. If this makes sense to you, then you are probably ready to move past the addiction and recovery trap you currently find yourself in:
“For some reason, society puts substance use into a special class of behavior and thus believes it must have complex causes. When substance users start pondering questions like “What caused this, what happened to me, why am I this way?” they enter a land of confusion that makes them feel more helpless.
Sometimes people develop this belief system on their own. They think something like Why am I this way? I came from a good home, a loving family. I wasn’t abused or neglected. We always had everything we needed growing up. Searching for some negative experience or cause leaves them more puzzled and hopeless. It seems like an unsolvable mystery, so they continue using as is, with no hope of changing.
This often happens in interactions with others. It pains them to think that you are willing to pay such a high price for the effects of drugs and alcohol. They consider the behavior so irrational that it couldn’t possibly be freely chosen. So they start asking “What is it? Are you depressed or something?” and posit all sorts of “underlying causes of addiction.” They present the notion that it must be complicated, and substance users buy into it. It’s the playground effect again.
The answer to “what happened to you” is simple. You grew to like and prefer substance use based on a variety of the straightforward reasons laid out throughout this text. Then you started to learn to see this preference as an addiction by a variety of the processes laid out in this chapter.”