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My daughter has been to 3 rehabs. I swear that every time she goes, she gets worse, not better. But I do understand that when she gets out she needs to avoid triggers. So what’s going on here, and how can she hide from the drugs?
You bring up a good question here. Unfortunately, treatment makes addicts, it doesn’t cure them. So your assessment that she keeps getting worse from treatment’s influence is correct. Being an “addict” is a state of mind; a self image of being susceptible to the power of drugs (another myth we tackle in The Freedom Model). The answer is that she cannot hide from drugs, and she is not “triggered” to use them. She decides to use and prefers use. Until her preferences for drugs and alcohol change – you will never be able to shield her from what she actually wants. The Freedom Model for Addictions teaches users exactly how to change their preferences, and consequently, it will take all the pressure to avoid substances away. Here is a brief excerpt from The Freedom Model for Addictions that covers this topic:
In some cases, the problematic substance user might even begin attending rehabs to avoid life’s stresses. In this situation, rehabs become a bubble in which to avoid life for a bit. We know many people who have cycled in and out of treatment centers with this motivation. Unfortunately, this scenario backfires in a big way. Here’s how and why:
Attendance at rehabs reinforces all the myths we’ve been talking about throughout The Freedom Model. For example, one of the most common rehab myths that is promoted is that the substance users must avoid all stressful “triggers” that might set off a relapse when they return home after their treatment has been completed. This teaching is predicated on the idea that addicts or alcoholics are too weak mentally and emotionally to deal with any stress without a support network in place when they go home. The users are then given an excuse to avoid all of life’s inherent challenges in their quest for the utopian stress-free existence. This ideal sounds good the first time people go to rehab, especially for those who are already attracted to absolving their responsibilities in life and putting those responsibilities on others around them. But there’s a fly in this ointment. With that teaching, comes a sense of being handicapped and disabled. And, while this might sound attractive at the time, it gets old as those around the users begin to wear out from the users’ lack of responsibility, culpability, and ability and begin to complain. These people are annoyed and angered because they are now expected to carry the substance users’ workload in life. The problem gets worse the longer this idea is reinforced by multiple treatment stays and further family participation in the ruse. You see, the substance users are told to avoid all stressors and triggers because they are weak and simultaneously taught at the same rehab that being high relieves stress. So how do you think this works out in the long run?
*In cases of physical withdrawal, medical treatment and/or medical detoxification services may be necessary. Consult with a licensed physician..
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